A Sneak Peek: What Would I Tell Her At 13 by @SueGhoshWriter

ImageAt the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents – Jane D. Hull

Parenting – as much as it is rewarding it is an overwhelming responsibility esp. when the kids enter their teens

What Would I Tell Her @ 13: Every parent’s answer to the challenging Teens

Here is a sneak peek on what the book is about and the issues it touches 

Introduction: While a mother can be a role model to her daughter with her behavior, grooming habits and attitude, a father will affect her perception of herself as a woman. What this really means is that praises at dance recitals and letting your little girl know that she is a pretty, loved daughter, needs to come from the father too. In fact, the male parent is your daughter’s role model for the opposite sex. Think about him as a template of sorts.

Hello Independence:  A parent has to wonder if he or she is giving her children too much independence too soon. It is natural to worry about trusting your daughter and giving her freedom at an age where she may be too young to make sound judgments and thus may inadvertently compromise on her own safety and well-being.

The Power of Confidence: For those who think that girls shouldn’t play sports, you’ll only hinder her self-confidence if you tell her that she will not be able to play one. Let her find out for herself what she is good at and bad at. Discovering Your Voice: The thirteen-year-old has a lot to observe and a lot to selectively take in or ignore. In other words, all of these elements in her daily life are bound to contribute to her voice. It doesn’t happen in a day or a week. It will take time, but when she discovers her voice, her desires will be a sum of her experiences and interactions.

Newer, Bigger Goals: It’s alright. She’s only thirteen, so experimentation and finding out what her choices are is normal. Just make sure that she knows what her choices are because too many parents set early vocational goals for their teens, giving them misery later when they find themselves stuck in a career that has nothing to do with their aptitude and interests.

The First Crush:  Parents, your daughter will have that exciting first crush, regardless of your attempts to stop her. You could put her in an all girls’ school and still see her falling for a boy at an inter-school event, in the neighbourhood or somewhere else. If you tell her to stop talking to boys, that would be unhealthy. There is no reason why she should think that boys and girls are not supposed to interact with one another.

Friendship & Cliques: While you are monitoring your thirteen-year-old’s relationships with her friends and Best Friend Forever (BFF), don’t be surprised to realise that she is a member of a clique. A clique is a small group of people who are very close to each other and are reluctant to let others join them. Cliques typically consist of a few girls who talk alike, have the same interests, dress alike and spend all their time together.

Staying Safe Offline & Online: The attachment to digital technology is a phenomenon that previous generations will have trouble identifying with. Recent research indicates that social media including Facebook and Twitter are preferred over email – by people of all ages. The trouble with being so technologically savvy is that girls with hardly any maturity have access to everybody and everything, with too many people having access to them too.

..There is more to the book …watch this space for more…and do leave your thoughts and comments !