Knowingly or unknowingly, love takes away a lot from us. The responsibilities and demands of this commitment sometimes makes us forget our passions and dreams as we start doing a little too much to appease everyone around us. Claire Garber’s new book “Love is a thief” is centered around the same and tells the story of Kate Winters who is on a mission to take back what love stole from her all these years. We got talking with Adite Banerjie and asked her as to how does she think we can maintain a balance between our love lives and ambitions/interests.
* What comes to your mind when you hear the title love is a thief?
“Love is a thief” has an interesting twist to it…while most of us give up something for love, the title makes you think: what has love stolen from you and what would you do to get it back?
* What is that one thing/dream you would like to pursue or see it coming true if you had more time on hand?
If I had more time I would love to travel the world. Go to the farthest corners of the world and experience the sights, sounds and tastes of those places.
* Do you think in their bid to find love and live a happily married life, women sometimes compromise too much and let go of their dreams/ambitions?
If yes, what advice would you offer them?
While I wouldn’t like to generalize, women do tend to give up their dreams and ambitions too easily. It’s all about finding balance in life—in work, in relationships. So any relationship that demands that a woman makes all the sacrifice is clearly not a very happy one. I think we women need to take the men in our lives into confidence and share our dreams with them. If he really loves you, he will not stop you from fulfilling your dreams.
* How do you suggest one should maintain a balance between doing things that make us happy and making the people around us happy?
Everyone –be it a guy or a girl—needs some me-time. I would say start with identifying what is the thing that you sorely miss doing and or would love to do. And do think about it and have some kind of a strategy. Once you have, share it with your nearest and dearest ones. Be flexible about how you go about achieving your goal and make sure that those closest to you don’t feel threatened by your new initiatives. Give them time to adjust but don’t give up your dream at the first obstacle. Once the people around you have figured out how much it matters to you, you’ll be surprised at how much support you get from them.
* The character of Maya in your book “The Indian Tycoon’s Marriage Deal” though conflicted to begin with, eventually finds her true love -Do you think she was able to maintain a balance between finding her happy ending without losing herself and what matters to her?
Maya is a girl who is coming to terms with what has happened to her family and dealing with her angst. When she finds love, it also helps her own inner growth. She learns how to be a better person, not a bitter one. Besides, her career is also an integral part of her life; she uses her talents in a constructive way and it ties in well with her happy-ever-after story.
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